I'm tired of it.

When I say I'm getting tired, it means I can't afford to waste time or energy. It's interesting how as we age, our perspectives can shift. I've noticed lately that I no longer have the energy to invest in relationships or situations that don't bring value to my life. It's like a switch flipped one day, and I realised that I don't need to constantly care about everything and everyone around me. And you know what? I'm quite content with this newfound mindset.

They say that the frontal lobe, responsible for decision-making and impulse control, continues to develop after the age of 25 (and yes, I'm giving away my age here!). I've come to appreciate the importance of prioritising my well-being and focusing my energy on things that truly matter to me. It's not about being selfish; it's about self-preservation and living authentically. So, if letting go of unnecessary worries and obligations means I can embrace a more fulfilling life, then count me in.

Frontal Lobe

'The frontal lobe is the brain's most anterior (front) part. It extends from the area behind the forehead back to the precentral gyrus. The frontal lobe is responsible for higher cognitive functions such as memory, emotions, impulse control, problem-solving, social interaction, and motor function.'

These functions also include attention, reasoning, judgment, problem-solving, creativity, emotional regulation, impulse control and awareness of aspects of one's and others' functioning. So, if you find yourself suddenly using your brain to do either of the ones above congrats, your frontal lobe has developed or, developing.

Letting go gets easier.

Rather than simply seeking calmness, I now seek understanding in my actions and their purpose. In both favourable and challenging times, I strive to release attachments and embrace a sense of ease, though admittedly, it's a work in progress.

Reflecting on a recent period of my life, I realise how much energy I expended trying to please others without considering my well-being. I became overly fixated on external validation, sacrificing my happiness in the process. This mindset not only drained me but also affected those I cared about. In hindsight, I recognise the importance of establishing boundaries and prioritising self-care.

Moving forward, I approach life with a newfound perspective. Through various life experiences, I've come to understand that true maturity stems from introspection and growth. Despite the abundance of unsolicited advice from others, I've learned to trust my instincts and honour my feelings. I no longer feel compelled to overextend myself to maintain relationships or question my worth based on others' opinions.

Instead, I advocate for self-awareness and open communication, both internally and externally. Tuning into my own needs and addressing them promptly has become a priority. I believe that authentic communication is vital, not only in relationships with others but also in the relationship with oneself.

In conclusion, I emphasise the importance of listening to one's intuition and taking proactive steps towards self-care and fulfilment. `So, listen to your gut and yourself, not others and if you are wondering why you suddenly feel a change within yourself, you now know why.

That's all for today.

Nish xo