Mind

I’ve noticed (and I’ve been guilty of this, too) that sometimes we expect others to just know what we’re feeling without actually saying it. Sure, we can pick up on body language or tone when someone’s upset, but the truth is, none of us are mind readers.

Wouldn’t it be easier if we communicated openly instead of guessing? It would save so much confusion and stress. I don’t know if you’ve seen my recent posts, but I’m getting a little tired of unspoken expectations.

Why is it so hard to be straight up about feelings?

We all have them! Our emotions are just our body’s way of communicating with us. But let’s face it—communication works best when it’s clear and honest. And that’s not always easy! It takes courage to talk about feelings, but it’s the only way to truly understand each other and keep relationships strong.

At the end of the day, we all want to be heard and understood. So, if something’s bothering you, or if you just need to share what’s going on, make things easier on yourself by skipping the guesswork and speaking up.

Sometimes, without even realising it, I find myself invalidating my feelings. I brush them off, thinking they’re not important enough to speak about. But the truth is, if something is bothering you, it is important. Ignoring it won’t make it go away—it’ll just linger in the back of your mind.

I remember this moment from my childhood: I hurt my knee pretty badly during lunchtime, to the point where it was bleeding and painful. But when I returned to class, I stayed quiet instead of speaking up because I didn’t want to make a fuss. Looking back now, I think, “Why didn’t I say something? I should’ve gotten treated.” As an adult, I realise I still sometimes fall into that habit—keeping quiet to avoid causing a scene. What I didn’t understand back then, and still have to remind myself now, is that by staying silent, I was invalidating my feelings. I wasn’t putting myself first, and in the process, I was hurting myself both physically and emotionally.

Just a gentle reminder for both myself and you: if something is bothering you, speak up. Don’t keep it inside and hurt yourself in the process. Open communication makes things easier for everyone involved.

Nish xo